I was in Atlanta last week at an uh-mae-zing live event. So much goes into taking care of myself before something like this, while I'm gone, and of course, getting "back on track" if I need to when I return. This was my nightstand at the hotel. Captured it...and the meaning, just for you!
I can't afford to sabotage my own health, but I'm human. I don't strive for perfection, but I practice (my) excellence. This keeps the guilt at bay and allows me to be real and share real-life experiences with clients and others. And that's what I want to bring to you today. Let's get real about how you too, can stop sabotaging your own health, and because it's February, the Month for Love...love on YOU! (Know that I speak from personal experience!)
Maybe this isn’t you, but…sometimes we’re so used to things not going our way or turning out like we like, that we protect ourselves by “ruining” things for ourselves before they get ruined by others. Sit on that one for a minute.
Many times those who sabotage their health are driven by unconscious reasons, but justify it via mindful means. Simply put, we can totally mess up our health without even realizing it…fully.
If you’re too hard on yourself and tend to sabotage your own success when it comes to your health or otherwise, read on to find out how you can stop, and treat yourself the way you deserve to be treated. Love on YOU.
Take a step back and look at what’s happening in your life from an outsider’s point of view. You can even start a journal and write down what you “see.” Be honest.
Getting outside feedback is probably the last thing you want, right? But it’s a great chance to improve your health by realizing where you’re missing the mark. If you really tune in and are honest, you’ll find that the feedback is actually helpful, but it’s SO important that you don’t take it too personally, or over think everything. That’s not the point.
Don’t be deceived
The grass that’s much greener on the other side of the fence is that way because of the hard work and care that went into it. What you envision success to be, whether it’s losing 20 pounds or being filthy rich, or even having the ideal relationship…many times your thinking process doesn’t take into account all the hard work and care that must go into it. Be realistic about your health goals and break them down into mini-goals. Work backward. In order to achieve success this year, what do you need to do this month? This week? Today? Write down the small steps you need to take in order to get there, and don’t leave out the times when you fail to reach one of them. Trust in the process, and more importantly, in yourself. It’s another way to love on YOU.
Stop acting deceived
Oops. Sorry, not sorry. Some people think that when they sabotage their health, they’re doing it for the good of others around them. For example, a mother may feel that she’s putting her kids’ well-being before her own when she doesn’t take the time to eat right or exercise. Or a father thinks that by working all the time and not taking the time to take care of his health, then it’s for the sake of his family. The truth is, this behavior is like…back-door selfishness. You’re deceived into thinking it’s all for others. In reality, what selfish act are you fulfilling?
Trust a truth perspective
As we grow, we’re bombarded with comments about ourselves, and it’s the negative ones that stick with us the most. It used to be that way for me. The problem here is that it can be difficult to break free from these comments that we turn into tangible beasts that haunt us in every decision we make. In addition, they can be ordinary, run-of-the-mill comments that someone made without giving it a second thought. But to us, it dominates our waking hours and dictates our life decisions whether we realize it or not. And once we’ve accepted them, we carry them around as baggage. It’s important to give these comments a break and be stronger than the effect they have on you so you can live life to the fullest. Sit on THAT one for a bit.
Go easy on yourself
It’s no big deal if you feel uncomfortable in a certain situation, or if you’re not completely certain what to do. It’s cool. Take a deep breath, realize that every single person gets the same heart-gripping fear every once in a while. Next, take the plunge - what’s the worst that can happen? I’ll tell you. It’s one of two things: You’ll either fail miserably, which will be somewhat embarrassing but it won’t be the end of the world. You can just call it research or assessing (which it totally is!), then you’ll stand back up, take another deep breath, learn from your mistakes and see it as growth…and try again. Or, you’ll succeed and you’ll be proud of your accomplishments, but it won’t be the end of the world. You can call it research or assessing (which it totally is!), then you’ll stand tall, take another deep breath, learn from your success and see it as growth…and move on to the next task with courage. Did you catch that?
Living in confidence takes practice and time. Take every opportunity to do some research or assessing (there’s those words again) and ask questions so that you’re prepared and confident.
Give low self-esteem a one/two punch. When you’re not as trusting in your abilities as you can be, it prevents you from achieving the most you can. People with low self-esteem have ready on-hand excuses for why they’re not good enough or why they can’t do this or that. Fear of failure is normal, it’s the “not trying” part that makes you miss out on living life to the fullest.
Take the time to put yourself before others. You heard that right. Not in a bad egotistical way. Let me explain. If you don’t take care of you…who will take care of them and “all the things” when you're not able? Besides, it’ll make you a healthier, more giving person. How? Because you’ll quickly discover that you have more time and energy to do the things you have to do in your life, the things you want to do in your life, whether it’s for work, family, or community. This also builds your confidence level all around.
Putting these tips into practice will help “healthy” flow into every area of your life. Action steps are the beginning of new habits. New habits are the beginning of change. Change is the only thing that will get you from where you are now, to where you want to be.
Should this be a pledge to YOU? I think so.
What could be your very first step to make this happen in your life? Hit reply and let me know!
Well....almost ready! I'm working on some bullet journals to offer to help organize and orchestrate almost every area of your life. You choose. Journals also help with accountability and bringing everything into alignment.
"Journals? No way!" you might say. But just wait until you see how awesome the process can be. I'm not talking about woo-woo fluffy stuff. I'm talking about mastering and orchestrating your life. Keep an eye out, because you'll be the first (or second) to know. If you want to be "first" just hit "reply" and let me know! ;)
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