Seeing the Truth
When Emma first walked into my home workout office, she wasn’t just carrying extra weight…she was carrying the weight of self-doubt, past failures, and the silent belief that she was somehow never enough.
A high-achieving entrepreneur in her early 50s, she had already built a business from the ground up, but had neglected herself in the process.
Like so many of my coaching and training clients…her life was full…but she was lost in it.
She wanted to lose weight, that much was clear. But as we talked, I could see it was more than that. The scale wasn’t her real struggle. It was the voice inside her head, and the beliefs she held onto.
Assessing the Truth
During her physical assessment, I noticed patterns that told an even deeper story. Poor movement patterns. Muscle imbalances. A body that had learned to compensate for stress, tension, and years of pushing through instead of being cared for.
It was all connected. Her body reflected her mind…her choices. This wasn’t just about losing weight. It was about reclaiming her life.
At first, the same all-or-nothing mindset that had dominated so many areas of her life, kept creeping in. If she didn’t see immediate results, she believed it was pointless. If she didn’t do something perfect, she thought she was failing.
In our many discussions, I could see this way of thinking in how she approached her business, her relationships…even her self-worth.
Shifting the Focus: A New Kind of Strength
I made it clear from the start. There would be no promises of a magic number on the scale. Instead, we would focus on building strength, inside and out. We would work on “best” movement patterns, but we’d also work on mindset. We would talk about food, but we’d also talk about the stories she told herself about worthiness, success, and identity.
This wasn’t just about body transformation. It was about life transformation…through orchestration.
Emma hesitated at first, skeptical of a process that wasn’t built around control and restriction. But slowly, she began to lean in. She started moving differently. She was learning to engage her core, move from a position of stability and strength, and correct years of misalignment.
As her posture changed, so did her confidence. She stopped punishing her body, denying her identity…and started partnering with them both for the best outcomes. Yes…we had to uncover her full identity, so she could learn how to “move” in and with that.
And something remarkable happened.
As Emma grew physically stronger, she began making decisions from a place of confidence rather than fear. She ended a toxic relationship that had drained her for years. She finally gave herself the raise she had been hesitating to take in her own company. She started building a team that aligned with her vision rather than trying to do everything herself. She even took the time to volunteer at her church…something she had always wanted to do, but never felt she had the time or energy for.
Mind-Body Connection: When the Internal Work Becomes Visible
The changes in Emma’s life weren’t the result of a strict diet or an exhausting workout plan. They were the result of shifting her perspective.
She stopped approaching her life from a place of depletion, and started living from a place of strength. Yaas!
She let go of the baggage she had been carrying for years. The weight of past failures, the fear of not being good enough, the belief that she had to do everything alone...that had held her back. Held her down.
And as she did, her body responded. Her energy skyrocketed. Her stress levels dropped. She started laughing more, sleeping better, feeling joy in ways she hadn’t in WAY too long.
Her workout sessions…became life sessions.
And yes…I’m happy to report that she lost weight. Go Emma! But by then, it wasn’t her biggest victory. 🙌🏽
One day, coming straight from work, Emma walked into our session wearing a dress she had stuffed in the back of her closet years ago. “I forgot how much I loved this dress. How good it felt.” She admired herself in front of my large mirror on one wall.
There was something I hadn’t seen before. A lightness.
It wasn’t just about the size. It was about stepping into a reflection of herself, she had almost forgotten. Almost lost.
Living in Alignment: The Art of Orchestration
Emma’s journey wasn’t about finding work/life balance. It was about life orchestration. It was about rediscovering her identity, and aligning her life in a way that supported her mind, body, and spirit. She learned to fuel herself properly, not just with food, but with healthy relationships, fulfilling work, and time for rest and joy. She discovered that taking care of herself wasn’t selfish. It was a gift. A baton she’d been handed to conduct a gift she’d been given.
And the best part? She was no longer waiting for a number on the scale to feel good about herself. She was living in the fullness of her identity, walking in strength, making empowered choices. And we’re not talking about just in her health…but in every area of her life.
Emma’s story is a reminder that transformation isn’t about fixing what’s wrong, or fixating on “a” specific thing. It’s about discovering what’s already right…and stepping fully into it.
When we stop looking for quick fixes, and start embracing the process that involves all that we are…everything shifts.
Emma thought her goal was weight loss. She thought that would “fix” everything else.
But what she gained was far greater. Freedom. Confidence. JOY. And a life that finally felt like her own. She was back IN it.
What do you need to lose…for your greatest gain?
I’m here to help.
I believe:
- you were uniquely created by God
- your identity is key to everything you do in life
- you are here to make an impact...on purpose
- your impact has a ripple impact forward
- life and all of it's transitions, are best viewed from a bridge perspective
- life is better when you orchestrate it, vs trying to balance it
- you can live a healthy, whole life
- you can live a JOY-filled life
- I'm here to help
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