Have you ever been crossing one of life’s bridges…full of hope, excitement, and determination…

...only to trip over your own feet halfway across? Not fun.

That’s what self-sabotage feels like. You set out with the best intentions, but somewhere along the way, you stumble into some of the same old patterns.

I know what that feels like. It’s frustrating, isn’t it?

Here’s two things I know to be true:

It’s not always the outside obstacles that trip us up. Typically, it’s what happens inside…the thoughts and choices, then the actions and habits that compromise our journey. And sadly, some of those are on repeat.

When you sabotage one area of your life, the ripples often spill into other life areas.

You skip your morning walk, and later you reach for a “not-so-healthy” snack.
You push your devotional aside for later, and soon that spiritual connection feels out of reach.
You say yes to someone who drains you, and later…when it’s time for the things that truly matter…your energy is gone.

Am I right…or am I right?

One misstep on the bridge can feel like you’ve thrown off your entire crossing.

I say, “No!” Self-sabotage doesn’t have to be permanent.

Bridges…even life bridges…are meant to carry you forward, not trip you up and trap you halfway.

Nobody’s journey is perfect.

And with the right strategies, you can notice the cracks before you stumble. You can identify the compromising points, be prepared, and choose steadier footing. You can keep walking with confidence and peace.

If you could use a little guidance, keep reading for five powerful ways to keep self-sabotage at bay while you cross any life bridge.

5 Tips for Keeping Self-Sabotage at Bay

1. Catch Your Thought Loops Early

Self-sabotage starts in your head before it shows up in your actions. Notice the repeated phrases, “I’ll never get this right,” “It’s not worth it,” or “I’ll start tomorrow.” It might be something totally different. Regardless…pause. Ask yourself: “Is this thought helping me cross the bridge, or holding me back?”

Replacing the loop with a truth-filled statement shifts the action and momentum.

2. Anchor with Small Daily Wins and Gratitude

Big goals can feel overwhelming. Sometimes not knowing how long the current bridge journey is, can keep us wandering and wondering instead of focusing. These are times when sabotage sneaks in. Instead of an “all-or-nothing” thought process, identify some “momentum markers.” Choose one small, non-negotiable win each day. Keep it simple…whether that’s a five-minute stretch, journaling a gratitude note, or tackling the first call on your list.

Every small step strengthens the next one, so be grateful for it.

3. Build and Respect Boundaries as Guardrails

Bridges have rails for a reason. They keep you on path and safe when distractions come up, or the strong winds blow. Your life needs them too. Guardrails might look like setting specific work hours, saying no to draining commitments, or limiting digital noise during your focus time.

Boundaries don’t box you in…they guard and guide you safely across, when the way forward may be compromised.

4. Redirect Instead of React

When something (or someone) pushes you off balance, your instinct may be to react…and that’s another way sabotage begins. Instead, pause and get your footing. Pause long enough to refocus and redirect. Ask yourself: “Will this next action support or compromise my journey?”

That single moment of choice can keep you from tripping into regret.

5. Remember Why You’re Crossing

Self-sabotage thrives when you forget the “why.” What’s waiting for you on the other side of this life bridge? More peace? Better health? Stronger relationships? Deeper spirituality? A thriving business? Write it down. Keep it visible.

When the missteps tempt you, remind yourself what you’re walking toward…and WHY.

Here’s my encouragement for you:

Self-sabotage isn’t a sign that you’re failing. It’s a sign that you’re human.
God has a plan and purpose for your life. Purpose pulls you forward, even when willpower runs thin.
Walk in His confidence, because your life bridges are prepared for you and help keep you on path.
The key is not to camp out replaying the stumble, no matter where you are on your life bridge.
Learn from it. Stand up. Stand firm. Step again.
Keep walking!

If you feel like you might be stumbling over self-sabotage…here’s your opportunity to have a breakthrough so you can keep walking in confidence and peace.

Schedule your Bridge to Breakthrough Chat with me…your Bridge Guide. Let's get you to the other side.

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Deni