Creating Emotional Safety Around Your Wellness

According to dictionary.com, wellness, by definition, is:

the quality or state of being healthy in body and mind, especially as the result of deliberate effort.
an approach to healthcare that emphasizes preventing illness and prolonging life, as opposed to emphasizing treating diseases.

It is also considered as: the state of being in good physical and mental health

(Emphasis added.)

That deliberate effort of preventing illness and prolonging life, in order to achieve good physical and mental health…is only going to happen if we choose what we do to bring about and support these results...wisely.

Our habits.

Our lifestyle.

How we live life every day.

I’m just gonna put this out there…

If the habits you create are tied to the shame you carry…how motivated will you be to maintain them?

You might begin to avoid a wellness “plan” because it reminds you of everything you think you’re doing wrong.

I can tell you that wellness feels better when its emotionally safe. That’s because emotional well-being is a huge part of wellness. Wholeness.

Here's What I Know to Be True

Creating emotional safety means changing your perception of, and the way you approach healthy choices and habits.

You can still have goals. You can still care about progress. But your wellness journey and routine should not make you feel…I don’t know a better way to say this…attacked by your own thoughts.

It should help you feel supported...like a bridge!
Respected...like a companion.

And strong...like a protector.

Oh yeah! 😎

It’s you feeling safe and able to keep going. Emotionally, physically, and spiritually.

Speaking to Yourself with Compassion

When you look in the mirror, what do you think...or say?

When you look in the closet, how do you feel?

When you lay in bed at night…what makes you uncomfortable?

I’m asking to stir YOU up. Because the way you speak to yourself matters.

If you use harsh words every time you miss a habit, avoid movement, eat differently than planned, or feel tired…wellness can start to feel painful and judgmental.

Compassion gives you a better way to respond. Instead of saying, “I blew it,” you can say, “Today was hard for me, so I’m going to make one choice for care…now.”

See the difference in how that sounds? In how it…feels??

Instead of calling yourself lazy, you can ask yourself what you need to support your energy...now.

It’s a shift, right? A different lens. A kinder perspective.

And using a kinder inner voice helps you stay connected to your habits without making them feel like…punishment.

It’s hard to take ownership of punishment. Am I right?

Letting Mistakes Stay Small

Recently, I had a discussion with someone who is struggling with the weight she’s gained. Like…40 lbs in I believe, 3 months. And that conversation quickly turned into her calling herself out as…lazy, not disciplined enough, stressed out…and a few more choice names on her list of character traits, I was pretty sure she had accepted.

I can tell you that the way she carries herself…is emotionally challenging.

Missing a habit (or two) doesn’t need to become a story about who we are.

We might forget to drink water, skip a walk, stay up too late, or have a stressful day and eat to calm ourselves. These things happen.

But when they become our story…we keep writing chapters to support it. We literally live that out!

Let the mistake, misconception, missed habit stay small, and not in control. You do not need to start over. Simply start…fresh.

You don’t need to overcorrect. Simply adjust.

You don’t need to make the next day stricter or throw everything out.

You can simply make the choice and take the time to realign and reset.

Return to caring about care with one supportive, intentional, authentic choice. This is the best way to help you avoid all-or-nothing thinking, or the start-stop cycle of guilt, giving up, starting over...AND protect your emotional well-being.

Small mistakes are easier to recover from when you don’t turn them into personal failure stories.

Avoiding Harsh Self-Motivation

Now, I can tell you that I have worked with clients that have tried the harsh motivation technique to create quick action…before they came to me, of course. The result? It wasn’t sustainable. Which is why they came to me.

And here’s what I believe: I believe it damages trust in themselves, their ability, and their next effort.

If you have to insult, shame, or scare yourself into wellness…friend…that in itself…is not supportive of wellness. That's not leading you into wholeness.

Try using encouragement instead. Positivity. Supportive self-talk.

Not in a woo-woo kind of way. In a truth kind of way.

Simply remind yourself that you are worth caring for…now. In this moment. Not just after you reach a goal. Because if you can’t “care” now…you probably won’t “care” later. Just sayin.

Choose habits that help you feel supported inside and out

Let Wellness Support Your Life…

Let Your Life Support Your Wellness

When you create emotional safety around your wellness, it will make your life feel better, not smaller.

It will help you have energy for what matters and feel present IN your days. It will care for your body, mind, and spirit, as well as help you enjoy moments of peace.

If a habit starts to make your life feel tense or restricted, pause and reassess it. Realign it. You are allowed to adjust your routine so it supports you in a healthier way, ya know.

The goal is not to build a perfect lifestyle. You’re human.

The goal is to create a lifestyle where care feels natural, safe, kind, and worth returning to. You can live it.

What I love is when wellness becomes easier to achieve and maintain, because it’s built on acknowledgement of who you are and respect for who you’re becoming.

Here's My Encouragement to You

Create emotional safety around your wellness.

Create habits to support these choices.

Keep walking in that direction.

If you or someone you love needs guidance, encouragement, and support in creating a lifestyle they can live and love...choose one of the Bridge to Wholeness Resets to get started HERE.

You can also contact me for more information HERE.

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Deni